My parents
were so excited when I decided to follow my father’s footsteps into the Navy,
and had great hope this would change my perspective on life. I had already exhibited a combination of a strong-will
and independent spirit that was getting me into trouble more times than I care
to admit. And unfortunately I carried that into military
service.
After the
military, I spent many years traveling around; wasting my life. The next nine years was a journey spanning three
countries in search of peace, happiness, and contentment, but all I found were
drugs, alcohol, and broken dreams. I
wandered from one town, one drink, and one relationship to the next. Always wondering what was over the next hill,
always seeking that next adventure.
I was the
Prodigal Son!
One day,
while hanging out at the local college scene, my sister showed up unexpectantly. She came to tell me that our brother had been
hurt in an automobile accident down in Pensacola, Florida, and he wasn’t doing
well. Shortly after arriving at my
parent’s home, we received the news that he had passed away. It was one of the worst nights of my life. My parents were devastated. It was later that I learned my mom had been
on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
That night,
several of my parent’s church family, and the pastor, had arrived to be of some
comfort to mom and dad. I remember
standing on the other side of the doorway into the kitchen listening to the
conversation. All of a sudden I heard
that voice I will never forget come slicing through the air like a large, sharp
knife and straight into my heart! “We
are so sorry about what happened to your son, Allan. IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN RUSS!”
I ran to my
bedroom while a wave of guilt flooded over me. They were right! I was the useless, black sheep of the
family. I was the one causing the family
so much pain and grief through my actions.
I embarrassed my parents continually in the community, and broke their
hearts day in and day out. I was the one
going nowhere, and only wasting my life.
Not my brother!
I was the
one who should have died that night!
I carried
that thought for almost twenty-five years.
And it only compounded the sense of guilt I felt about the life I had
lived. I rebelled against God, against
family, and against society searching for that elusive “something” I felt was
missing in my life.
I know my
life was filled with sin. I eventually
prayed for God’s forgiveness, and I believed He heard my prayer. But, what about you? Have you prayed for forgiveness, and really
meant every word. You believe that Jesus
died for you on the cross and that His sacrifice forgives all your sins. But you still feel guilt and condemnation,
just like I did. You know from the Bible
that God has forgotten that sin. He has removed it from you as far as the east
is from the west. But you still feel
horrible! How do you get past that
feeling?
We make life
hard by blaming ourselves for things we did in the past. But God says through Paul, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us
free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke
of slavery.” (Galatians 5:1)
What does
that freedom really mean? It means that
you are not saved from hell to be imprisoned in self-punishment. God has set you free. You are no longer a slave to self-hatred and
self-condemnation. The Bible says, “There is now no condemnation for those who
are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1)
Forgiveness is not a feeling. You
must choose to deny Satan, the accuser, and his plans to make you feel guilty
and dirty because of sins in the past.
When Satan
tries to remind you of your past, do these things:
1) Meditate
on the truth of who God is, and who you are in Him.
2) Absorb
into your heart and spirit scriptures about God’s forgiveness, mercy, grace,
and love. Psalm 103 is a good place to start.
3) Take an
objective view of your past to learn from your failure. What did you learn
about yourself and God through this experience?
4) Allow God
to touch your emotional wound for healing, and refuse the attempts of Satan to
harass you anymore, because the King of glory stands as your Defender and
Advocate.
Pray this
prayer of commitment and begin enjoying the blessings of forgiveness and
freedom.
Heavenly Father, thank You that you have never abandoned me. You have loved me unconditionally. I am
accepted in Jesus. And my acceptance does not depend on anything but Jesus, His
love, mercy, grace, sacrifice, and righteousness. Therefore, I am not ashamed
before You.
I repent of all my sins in Jesus’ name. Thank You that I am completely
forgiven and cleansed by the blood of Jesus. I will not allow the enemy to
harass me about the past. I choose to forgive myself and receive the full
freedom of Your forgiveness.
I choose to let Jesus cover my past failures and struggles, and enjoy
Your love so that my mind is at rest. What
amazing grace that You remember my sins and iniquities no more!
Because of the incredible forgiveness of Jesus, I can forgive others in
His name. I choose to forgive all those
who have hurt me, harmed me, or spoken against me. I free them in my thoughts
and no longer hold their sins against them. Bless them in Your mercy. I do this by the indwelling power of Your Holy
Spirit.
Thank You Lord, that I am a brand new creation. All the old has passed away, and I stand clean
and new in Your sight. I can settle this
today with You. Thank You that You
control me, not my emotions or what others say or do. And I receive all Your blessings for my life
and give You all praise, honor, and glory forever. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!
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Russ, This story of your life brought tears to my eyes. The Russ I knew was very kind to me when other people were not so kind including my own family. I am so glad that you found Christ and turned your life around.
ReplyDeleteI know that it was heart wrenching to loose your brother Allan, but I am so GLAD that it wasn't you that died. And now you are new and helping so many people. God had a plan for you, you just needed to see it.
Thank you for your kind words. God bless you!
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